I originally posted this April 1, 2012. It's worth reiterating. (updated)
Writing romance, the Happily Ever After (HEA) ending is expected. There are conflicts, setbacks, tragic events, but in the end the hero – against all odds – triumphs, right? That is our modern convention, the “formula” of a good romance regardless of genre. The hero and heroine ride off into the sunset victorious. But that's not real.
Writing romance, the Happily Ever After (HEA) ending is expected. There are conflicts, setbacks, tragic events, but in the end the hero – against all odds – triumphs, right? That is our modern convention, the “formula” of a good romance regardless of genre. The hero and heroine ride off into the sunset victorious. But that's not real.
The
ideal of a happily ever after fills much of our literature, not only
romance. In action/adventure our heroes are beaten and bruised but they
survive to kick ass in the final battle. In our mysteries the killer is
caught, evil is thwarted, good is vindicated, and everything works out
in the end. But some of our greatest heroes are tragic heroes. They live
in a flawed world where sometimes evil wins. That's real.
Historically,
tragic romance was very popular. In our modern society we seem to
prefer rose colored glasses to the gray tones of life. We want epic
fantasy where “should” prevails over “does.” We cling to our childhood
beliefs of fairness and justice. Yet even now tragic heroes are our most
powerful heroic icons. Though the accepted paradigm demands HEA, when
heroes die audiences morn. They connect emotionally to the reality that
life isn't an HEA Romance.
In
the Alien saga Ripley throws herself into a vat of lead because she's
infected. In the Matrix trilogy, Trinity's death is powerful, and Neo –
blind and beaten – staggers away to certain death. Characters who are
willing to die in order to battle evil and save others are our truest
heroes, even when resistance is futile, even when evil seems to enjoy
the final HEA. It is by their struggles that our heroes are defined, not
their victory. Living on in a happily ever after world – as if nothing
bad actually happened – often cheapens the hero's struggle.
My
son the philosopher often takes issue with one of my favorite quotes,
“What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.” He says that's a logical
fallacy. What doesn't kill you can, and often does, leave you scarred
and broken. For the hero to walk away victorious and live the good life
with the heroine is often an unrealistic ending tacked on merely to
satisfy the HEA requirement of modern literature.
In
Tolkien's classic, Frodo and Sam don't retire to the Inn in Bree to
tell tales, drink wine, and enjoy their victory. Frodo survives – though
scarred and broken – and sails away with poor Bilbo. The Shire is no
longer a peaceful and idyllic home, and Sam must say farewell to his
beloved and tragic Mr. Frodo forever. The enemy is defeated, yet the
scars remain – nothing is ever the same – there is no HEA for the
heroes.
Today is Easter. Today week we remember what has
often been called, “The Greatest Story Ever Told.” The hero triumphantly
entering Jerusalem, the hero routing the temple of thieves and money
changers, the hero standing before corrupt rulers and being nailed to a
cross and left to suffer and die – his friends abandoning him. This is
the week we remember the truth – “There is no greater love than one who
will offer up his life for his friends.”
Easter
morning we celebrate our hero's ultimate HEA, but this week we must
take into our heart the struggle that brought that final victory. It is
in the hero's life, his suffering and death, that we find wisdom. It is
in taking up our cross daily that we give ourselves to others and live
not for our own HEA but for theirs. Life is often tragic, and good seems
to often fail, but it is not in the winning or losing that we are
defined. It is in how we live. When that life is an all-in, willing to
give up everything to hold our fellows up, type of life we become the
heroes of our own story.
True
heroes are not motivated by achieving a personal victory and enjoying
their ultimate HEA. Their motivation comes from a servants heart. The
true hero battles, and gives all, to the cause of others. These are the
heroes who touch the deepest part of us. They stir our soul to join the
battle, to lift up our fellow man, to give our life for our friends. In
literature, and in life, heroes are defined by what they sacrifice not
what they gain. Our tragedies and our reaction to them, not our HEA's,
define humanity.
Those
who follow my blog know that my son Joshua is being treated for
leukemia. Life often throws you a curve ball and sometimes you get hit
by a wild pitch. But one thing I will take away from this experience is
that true heroes still exist. Good friends have lifted me up and kept me
going this past year. Please, visit Indies Unite For Joshua, read the list of people who donated books and services to the campaign, then look at the list of contributors.
These people are modern heroes. Support them, buy their books, visit
their blogs, follow their twitter streams and "like" their pages..
We,
and our characters, are ultimately defined by how we help others.
Whether you are Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist, pagan,
agnostic, or atheist – caring for others is the noblest of human traits.
I praise God for all of you this Easter because all of you have shown
me true love. The outpouring of support for Indies Unite For Joshua crossed all religious, cultural, and political boundaries showing
that compassion is universal and has offered my personal story the
chance for a real HEA.
Thank You.
xoxox
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